30-year-old daughter plans family cruise, sends recommendations and suggestions to the entire family in preparation, they demand she stop: ‘Just let it go, we will figure it out’

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Bar Mor Hazut • Senior Editor
Sep 2, 2025 10:00 AM EDT

Every family has the planner, the one who schedules all the vacations, plans all the birthdays, and ensures everyone is happy and set before any celebration. Usually, the rest of the family is more than happy to let the planner plan, as they sit back and follow whatever they are told.

Not the family in the story below, though.

No, even though they have a perfectly organized planner in the family, who is more than willing to do all the necessary research and send any recommendations and suggestions to the family, they would rather just wing it. They are set to sail away on a family cruise in October, and instead of preparing for it, they don't want to know anything. They have no idea how they are going to get there, they don't care about the ship's rules, and they don't know what they'll do once they set sail. Not only do they refuse to plan all that themselves, they refuse to let anyone do it.

This led the 30-year-old daughter to question whether or not she even wants to attend the family vacation…

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    "They will be kicked off within the first day with their attitude"
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    Wibta for letting my family face natural consequences after they belittled me?

    I(30f) have always been a planner my entire life. I refuse to just wing it on vacations or in my life in general because I have a tendency of not having good luck.
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    So when I was asked to go on a family vacation Cruise in October, I immediately jumped onto the internet, reddit, and various other sources to start learning about cruises and all of the information I should know prior to going.
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    My family (mom, dad, bro, SIL, sis, BIL and their kids (1yr-6yr)) are a bunch of just wing it and we will figure it out as we get there.
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    My bro and SIL have two kids (2yrs and 4yrs). My Sister and BIL have two kids (1yr and 6yrs).
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    They were going to take an Uber from the airport to the hotel when I asked what they were planning. They did no research into this and didn't know that Uber doesnt have carseats.
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    I did that research because I want to ensure my son (2yrs) is safe. I ended up going with a car rental cause I can rent carseats from the company.
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    I told my mother this information first saying that I didnt see Uber's option for carseats and she told me that I really need to learn to relax.
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    I said I rented a car and would meet them there. My mom told my siblings this at our cookout today and they started belittling me about how I can't just let it go and figure it out when I get there.
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    Not to mention, on the cruise, this ship doesnt allow babies into the pools. They don't have any options for young toddlers or babies for swimming.
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    I said this too today at our cookout and was told "you always worry. No one is going to care if our kids are in the pool.
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    No one is going to throw you off the ship. Just shut the f up already. Stop being ridiculous and defeatist. Your attitude t and quite is b frankly, we are done with having you go
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    because we get a novel of st twe have to read on text about all of the stuff we can't do or bi t about where we go. Just let it go. We will figure it out as we get to that."
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    WIBTA if I left them at the airport to "Figure it out"?
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    WIBTA if I just got my money back from this "family vacation"? Because I feel like these companies give rules to follow and my siblings don't care if their kids bathroom in the pools and shut down the pools for everyone?
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    And just to add, I only sent them "novels" of information in text because I know several suffer from sea sickness so I read about room placement can help with that along with some certain meds being more effective especially if you take them before the cruise leaves.
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    And I also read about certain rooms being above or below casinos, clubs, and such can hear the noise and I thought they would want to know so they could choose wisely.
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    Now I wish I hadn't sent anything and let them and their kids figure it out.
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    ChallengeHonest NTA - I would cancel your plans to go with them on this cruise. Not only are they bad parents for their kiddies, but I don't like how they talk to you. Who says "shut the to their beloved family member? up"
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    HalfSugarMilk Tea NTA. Let them go by themselves and tell them to have fun! Then put your phone on silent before they start calling you a hundred times for help.
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    whatswrongwithfolks Go on the trip. Your sis and bro and their families won't make it to the ship in time and even if they do,they will be kicked off within the first day
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    with their attitude and you can enjoy the rest of the vacation without them causing issue. Seriously though - cruise ships do NOT play around. When they say they will leave without you,they
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    will leave without you,they will. Same goes for any breaking of rules onboard. They can and will disembark anyone breaking rules.
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    Choirmom1 Have been on cruises with family and you can go and let them fend for themselves. It's amazing how much room is on that ship. Also book your excursions- don't wait until on the ship as the good ones are full. Enjoy.
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